I just love, love, love the holiday season! I live for the holiday season! It's the perfect opportunity and excuse to BAKE, BAKE and BAKE cookies!
This holiday, I am participating in the Betty Crocker's #SpreadCheercampaign. Make the world a better place this Christmas when you spread cheer with the gift of cookies. Homemade gifts for Christmas is one of my favorite ways to show people I care about them.
My newlywed neighbour, Jenny, will be visiting her in-laws in their village in China for the first time and she is frantic! That's because the Chinese kinship system is among the most complex in the world and she is expected to address each and every member of her in-laws according to the different terms for relatives depending on whether they are younger or older than a closer relative (mother or father) and depending on whether they are maternal or paternal relatives. Calling them by their rightful titles especially the elders is a sign of proper respect and etiquette and it is a reflection of your parents. It means that you have been well brought up.
Here's a simple example.
Take my dad, for instance. He's the third child in his family of 2 elder brothers, an elder sister, 2 younger brothers and a younger sister. From young, we were taught to address Dad's elder bothers as "pak" and his younger ones as "sook", His elder sister is "gu ma" and the younger one is "gu".
Confused already? And I haven't even started on the uncles' wives and aunts' husbands and my mom's side! Maternal aunts and uncles and their spouses and kids have different titles too! Hmmm, I wonder if that's the reason China introduced the one-child policy?!!!! LOL! Interestingly, how does one address a gay relative and his or her partner/spouse?
This system is spot-on though. Say a friend tells you her ''sei yee cheong" is visiting, you know at once that she's referring to her 4th maternal aunt's husband. "Sei" is the number 4, "yee" is a younger sister of your mom and "yee cheong" is the husband of your mom's younger sister. And if she tells you her "gu poh" has passed on, you would know that she's referring to a sister of her paternal grandfather.
I am wondering - how do you address the ex-husband of your mom's divorced sister? Ex-yee cheong? We never found out 'cos he passed on before my sisters and I were born!
Here's a video to share
My mind exploded after the first 10 seconds! My boys are lucky I do things the easy way out, They generally address all their aunts and uncles as Aunty and Uncle. So my younger sister is just Aunty J to them and Aunty J's husband is Uncle William! Anyway, I only have an elder and younger sister which means my boys only have to remember "Tai Yee" (Big Aunty) and "Sai Yee" (Small Aunty). That shouldn't be too difficult!
So Good Luck to Jenny on her visit to China!
From left - Tai Pak (eldest paternal uncle), Yee Pak (second eldest paternal uncle, Sook Jai (youngest paternal uncle)!
K9 dogs were sniffing around and The Beast was entering the grounds!
WOW! According to Josh, it was just like watching a scene right out of a movie!
Yep! The President of The United States was in town and he was hosting the Young Southeast Asian Leaders Initiative (YSEALI) Town Hall event at my son's university.
